What can I do to monitor my girlfriend’s phone? Wanting to know what’s happening on your partner’s phone is a very human reaction when you feel uncertain — but secretly monitoring someone’s device crosses ethical and often legal lines. This article explains why spying is a bad idea, outlines the legal and emotional risks, and gives healthy, effective alternatives that protect both your relationship and both people’s privacy. Why secret monitoring is problematic Secretly accessing another person’s phone—installing spyware, reading messages without permission, tracking location covertly—violates trust and privacy. In many places it’s illegal: unauthorized access to someone else’s accounts or device can lead to civil penalties or criminal charges. being discovered usually destroys the relationship more surely than whatever you hoped to discover. Beyond legality, covert monitoring shifts your relationship into surveillance and control, which is corrosive and emotionally abusive. Legal a...